This morning I read an article by Lillian Daniel, pastor in the UCC, which has caused quite a stir. Since sharing it on my Facebook page a flood of comments are pouring in either applauding or criticizing her position. One thing we can all agree on: Her post, which names people who classify themselves as “spiritual but not religious” as boring, is provocative.
And I loved it.
I loved it because it serves as a reminder to religious people like myself and hopefully to anyone who is serving or will serve in any church capacity that we have a public image problem to address. We have failed in numerous ways to reflect the compassionate and servant Christ we claim to represent. We have shrouded much of the beauty and mystery of our faith with dogma and elitism. We have turned the open-armed embrace of Christ on the cross where radical forgiveness was spoken into a circle of wagons fearful of secular culture.
And the people have spoken. They like our Christ, but not Christians. To their credit, they sought higher ground elsewhere, opting to identify themselves as spiritual but not religious, perhaps so as to distance themselves from the abuse and judgment we have heaped upon others, making them twice the sons and daughters of hell as ourselves (Matt. 23:15).
I am reminded of something my theology professor, J. Kameron Carter, once said which has haunted me since it touched my ears and I hope it haunts you as it touches your eyes. He said,
The extent to which Israel does not believe Christ is the hoped-for Messiah is the same extent to which we have failed to be Christ’s Body.
Consider that for a moment. Or a lifetime. What he is saying, essentially, is that unbelief is not the fault of the unbeliever. It’s ours. That people don’t get religion – something which sociologists have long argued is second-nature to being human – is a testament to the degree with which we have failed being properly religious. James, the brother of Jesus, once said that true religion is this: Looking after the orphan and widow in their distress. In other words, true religion is charity. It’s love.
So this article convicted me. It made me think that the next time I hear someone tell me they are spiritual but not religious that perhaps my best response is one where I begin with a confession. I’m sorry.
I also loved it because she hit the nail on the head when she named our proclivity towards individualism. We hate authority. We are a people, particularly in America, who have made individualism a moral virtue. We tend to recoil at the prospect of being told anything, especially when it comes to matters of faith. Sure, we will gladly play the game when it comes to making a buck, but religion? Who are you to tell me how to think about God? I can do that on my own, under a canopy of oak trees in the shadows of a setting sun, thank you very much.
But the question must be asked: How do you know the inward groaning you perceive to be the Holy Spirit isn’t just indigestion?
We recognize this in most things. I send my kids off to school to learn math and english and science under the tutelage and instruction of a teacher. Why? Because they are dumb without it. They wouldn’t know a circle from a piece of bark if I or someone else didn’t explain it to them. The Ethiopian eunuch Philip discovered on the side of the road was humble enough to admit that he couldn’t rightly understand the scriptures he was reading unless someone showed him (Acts 8).
Humility, however, is not a lauded American virtue. It’s often seen as a sign of weakness. Yet Jesus saw it as a great strength. My kids will learn well in school if they remain humble and teachable. Are we really so arrogant to assume that we have nothing to learn from 2000 years of church history and tradition? Are we so smug in our own self-awareness that we think we don’t need the ongoing presence of a community who is rooted in a story bigger than our own growling stomachs to hold us accountable and point out our blind spots?
Being religious isn’t about being a stick-in-the-mud. It’s about recognizing our dependence not only on God but on the other all around me who calls me to be something more than an island unto myself. To take Jesus seriously means we see that other as Christ himself.
And that, friends, is pretty dang spiritual.


“To take Jesus seriously means we see that other as Christ himself.”Amen and amen.
Reminds me of the RCC gospel last Sunday: deny yourself, take up your cross and follow me
Good stuff as usual Chad! I think you probably nailed what I liked about the article. Though she might be been a bit abrasive in her approach, she is taking a stand against the “normalcy” of *lone wolf spirituality* in our world. Maybe what you are saying is that the more troubling thing is that the church has come to accept as “normal” that so many people will be *lone wolves* and needs to do a better job reaching out to them and inviting them “home”.
I found her article a little more then arrogant and judgmental.
“How do you know the inward groaning you perceive to be the Holy Spirit isn’t just indigestion?” Really?! Because it is not about us, our effort, our knowledge. It’s about God. I’ve yet to hear God move in my heart and mistake it for heart burn, or burp and think it is God speaking.
What you are saying sounds great, yet 20 years of being a christian I have yet to find a church that lives like you describe. Thus, my no longer claiming to labels, whether ‘christian’, religious’, or ‘spiritual’, and my no longer attending sunday morning, institutional, religious experiences.
I am simply on a journey with God, trying to grasp how much He loves me, and loving myself and others in the same way. So am I an “individualist”? No. I have plenty of close friends who I am on this journey with. And to assume that everyone who doesn’t gather in a brick and mortar building once a week is living in “individualism”, is just that, an assumption. I’ve met more people outside the walls of a church building who are ‘real’, ‘loving’, ‘gracious’, ‘etc.’ then I ever did inside said walls.
I love your ‘story’ and what I’ve read of you and your journey. It has been an encouragement to me, with that said I hope you don’t find my comment offensive, it’s just what I felt I needed to say. No, God didn’t tell me to say it, and it wasn’t the burrito I had for lunch. It is just my ‘heart’.
Rocco
More from Lillian here: http://christiancentury.org/article/2011-08/you-can-t-make
Chad – love your reflection the church’s part in the “problem” here. Very nice.
But I am still bothered by the idea that there is even a “problem” to begin with… as I commented on FB -
The assumption that “spiritual but not religious” people don’t go to church or even that some don’t consider themselves Christian – is extremely short sided on her part, and as a church leader borders on being ignorant (uninformed) of the vast spiritually reformative history of this country. “Spiritual but not Religious” is not some post-modern fad. It’s a rich journey that extends over 150 years in this country. Everyone of us, including Religious Institutions, have been affected by this movement(positively). Check outwww.newthoughthistory.org and check out some of the books like “A Republic of Mind and Spirit”.
Come to think of it, didn’t Jesus buck the religious traditions of his upbringing, spend more time in nature and with his own sense of personal connection with God?….AND encourage others to do the same? Doesn’t that make Jesus “Spiritual but not Religious”? Hmmm….
further…
the SBNR label does not mean that one is not disciplined, community minded/oriented nor lacking of a story bigger than our own selves to be rooted in.
The “Not Religious” part of the label is more accurately defined as “not concerned with Dogma or Authoritarian rule over my Spiritual Life”
you pose…”Who are you to tell me how to think about God? I can do that on my own, under a canopy of oak trees in the shadows of a setting sun, thank you very much.”
To which I ask, Isn’t that what Jesus did? Develop his OWN PERSONAL relationship with his Creator – in fact – he vanishes from the narrative from age 12 to 30 to do so!
“We hate authority.” - Again, so did Jesus.
Isn’t it slightly “Smug” to assume that someone who identifies as SBNR is “Smug”?
I am SBNR.
I go to church.
I serve and learn in community
I grow in community
I spend a lot of time “alone” growing internally as well
I love ritual and church history
I serve communion and wear vestments
I also strive to transcend my traditions and rituals – for they are only symbols that point to something bigger.
You are correct - it is about Love and Charity. It’s also about Compassion and Inclusion. It’s about a new way of Being in the world… and while Religion (on its best days) can point to and be a place where one can learn about this new way of Being – It is not about Religion. To make it about Religion is to miss the point entirely – which “The Church” has done.
“Christianity is not about Christianity” – Paul Tillich
http://www.amazon.com/Spiritual-but-not-Religious-Understanding/dp/0195146808
Is she saying what she says tongue in cheek or is she really being rude and condescending? Someone help me here.
Exactly! What Rocco says. Who does she think she is and what is she inviting us into? Nothing I want.
Hey David, thanks for your comment. I only have a moment….
The kind of SBNR people she seems to be identifying are those who could care less about any of those things, and Tillich? Not a care. That make sense?
I think if you define SBNR people in the way you have here there wouldn’t be an issue. But I think she did fairly well in her description of the sort of people she is talking about. I highly doubt they are the sort of people who love ritual and church history, communion or vestments. And they certainly don’t quote Tillich to support their argument
peace
yes, of course. However, I think she painted with too broad a brush. the SBNR movement is far more than her definition claims. I posted my own blog about it at http://revdavida.blogspot.com/2011/09/news-flash-jesus-was-but-not-religious.html
my church is filled with SBNR folks – no they don’t care about vestments – but they do learn to appreciate the rituals – and yes, even as much as I quote Tillich – most don’t care that I do. But more to the point, they do appreciate and value community.
Perhaps the problem with authority is when pastors think they have authority over the people..as if they aren’t equal in all ways with everyone else.
And from my experience, people who are Spiritual but not Religious aren’t lone wolves. They find their community in places other than churches and they find their own spiritual practices to express their faith through and they certainly have the freedom to do so.
Is your comment about children being dumb without school an analogy of people being dumb without church? That’s part of the problem right there. It’s arrogant to think that people can’t possibly understand God without a church authority telling them what to do.
Philip expressed Jesus to the eunuch…then left him alone. He didn’t invite him to church. He introduced him to the One who has his answers.
The Spirit of God is fully capable of teaching us..it’s what was promised to us. SBNR people seek out folks they can ask questions of..and they learn.
2000 years of church history and tradition has messed up millions of people and people are coming to understand how that happened and how to avoid it happening again for the next 2000 years. So while the SBNR people re-examine what they believe and why they believe it…the ‘church’ will have to accept that it doesn’t really need the people..it needs Jesus.
in the meantime.. The real Church is the people and when they feel so inclined to find a ‘church’ to gather with..She will make her appearance. and it will be She who comes into church and shows the religious how to be the Body again.
i am always challenged by your posts, chad. i would probably be one to classify myself as “spiritual but not religious” … in fact, i may still have that on a public profile hanging out somewhere on the web. (eeeeekk!) thanks for the reminder that it is not “the religious” whom are the enemy, nor should they ever be.
Yes, the Spirit of God is fully capable of teaching us but that does not happen in a vacuum. The idea that we can shut ourselves off from the rest of the world and just “feel” God in our prayer closet would have been a foreign and ridiculous concept the the first followers of Jesus. The Spirit, being part of a Communal (Triune) God calls us, likewise, into community. We are to learn from one another, heal one another, pray with each other, worship together, strengthen and spur each other on to good works, etc.
And yes, there is much to “learn.” I would venture to guess that all of our comments here come from much learning and reading and discussion with others. You would not have known to say what you just said without some “learning” just as my kids would not know a circle from a piece of bark without some “learning.” This shouldn’t be something we eschew but simply be aware of, and thankful for. Yes, much of our history bears the scars and wounds of others. This is because we are human. The church is not perfect. As you said, the real church is made up of people. Hopefully we do not “forsake the gathering together” (Heb. 10:25) so that we can discern where we are missing the mark.
When we say “just go to God” and get all your answers from the Source we in effect limit God to someplace “out there.” When in fact, I think you’d all agree that God is present where 2 or 3 are gathered in Christ’s name, present in our conversations with other journeyers, present in our 12 step meetings and counseling sessions, present in the Eucharist, and certainly present in his bride, the church, whom God seems to love despite all our many faults.
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